Guidance from Porsche Angel
Sometimes, it’s hard to know how dysfunction shows up in relationship experiences. Even when you figure it out, knowing what to do can be even harder. For starters, it’s helpful to understand what dysfunction actually is. Simply put, dysfunction is perpetually feeling negative impacts when something doesn’t work or doesn’t work as intended. While some may think it only emerges in extreme cases of abuse, it can also show up subtly, especially when love and romance are involved.
How to Identify and Overcome Dysfunction in Relationships
Here are some ways to recognize and address dysfunction so you can achieve the relationship you truly desire:
1. Recognize the Patterns
Dysfunction doesn’t always mean physical fights or heated arguments. If you’re in a relationship, it may resemble a cold war where no one is communicating—silent dissatisfaction with underlying problems festering. If you’re single, dysfunction could manifest as an inability to secure commitment or constantly choosing a certain “type,” with the same result: unrequited love, toxic dynamics, or unavailable partners. Comparing past relationships and interactions can help connect the dots and identify where dysfunction is most prevalent.
2. Get to the Root
Beyond identifying dysfunction in your relationships, it’s crucial to understand why these patterns persist. Without uncovering the driving forces behind these patterns, moving past them can be challenging. Try using socratic questioning to dig deeper. Not sure where to start? CLICK HERE for a free guide to help you explore the reasons behind chronic singleness or repetitive relationship ruts.
3. Have a Strategy
Living on autopilot and repeating the same behaviors won’t yield different results. For new, functional interactions, overcoming dysfunction requires clear, strategic action. Just like visiting a doctor for a diagnosis and treatment plan, resolving relationship issues needs support and guidance from trusted experts. If you’re ready to break the cycle of dysfunction and transform your love life, Rewire for Love, a program that helps both women and men, could be a great fit.
Conclusion: Don’t Wait for Change – Make It Happen
If you sense something is off internally or in your relationships and it’s leading to undesirable experiences, don’t wait for change—it often doesn’t happen on its own. Be proactive: examine your patterns, ask the tough questions, and seek support. Your future self will be grateful!
About Porsche Angel
Porsche Angel is an award-winning artist and certified mental health life coach with a background in clinical research and interpersonal communication. For more information about her coaching services, visit www.porscheangelcoaching.net.
